How to make friends as an adult (a quick rundown)
How To Make Friends As An Adult (20+ Year Olds)
Accept being alone for long periods of time as an inexorable part of growing up and expanding your brain
Explore the benefits of solitude and befriend yourself
Begrudgingly accept small talk as a form of connection (we tend to go for feeling accepted over being honest)
Take the leap to attempt to make deeper connections by initiating insightful conversations (a complete stranger got me to open up and have a heart to heart about our dads having diabetes during a 15 minute conversation. An interaction i’ll never forget)
Accept that acquiring real connection takes time. Friends aren’t found, they’re crafted.
Typically 5-7 conversations/interactions, we become friends with the people we see most often. Proximity and repetition are key
Find a regular place for connection that you enjoy
Consider a pet
It’s a part of growing up
Friends disappear with time because we begin to develop our own lives.
It comes with brain expansion
Being intelligent + sensitive makes us lonely because our society rules a majority of our thought processes and society does not encourage deeper thinking or meaningful interaction.
Inner work - Reflect and ask the deep questions. Why are you lonely? Is this a new feeling or has it existed most of your life?
“society that is big on connectivity yet often pulls up short on human connection"
That's all I got.